People are more reserved
and less openly gregarious than North Americans. It
is possible to encounter the thousand yard stare from
people. However, once you have been introduced, it is
common to find that Russian people are very friendly
and generous with their time and hospitality. Quite
often they will be very interested in America and Americans.
Although reserved in public, few people are as genuinely
warm and interested in foreign travelers as Russians.
They will extend the hand of friendship freely. It is
quite common to make friendships with people that are
lasting and genuine. If you speak to someone in an airport,
a train or on an airplane you will be surprised at how
quickly your social network will grow! Additionally,
people will be very warm and even sentimental with a
foreign person who they have connected with.
If you have been invited to join Russians in food or
drink, it is considered very impolite to decline their
hospitality to vigorously. Quite often Americans feel
that they should bring something to the party before
they can share. Don't worry too much about this. If
you think you may be in this circumstance, take food,
drink or sweets and it will be appreciated. Certainly
do this if you have been invited to someone's home or
dacha. It is a good idea to be prepared if you are going
to ride on the train any distance as well. Do not automatically
decline the invitation to join if you have not. This
is a bigger offense! Likewise when in a setting with
other people, such as in a train compartment you should
offer to share whatever you have in the way of food
or drink.
A dacha in Russia is a small cottage in the countryside,
often close to many others. Most times there will be
no electricity or running water. There will be a garden
though and the gardeners put much effort into it and
take great pride in the results. If you have the opportunity
to visit one and a Russian family it will be a novel
experience. If you are invited to a Russian person's
home or dacha they will probably bowl you over with
hospitality and will share everything that they have
with you.
If you are invited to a family's home or apartment,
you will usually be expected to remove your shoes. They
may not necessarily tell you this, but it will be expected.
Often there will be slippers for guests to wear.
The body space between people is greatly reduced. They
may stand closer to you when they speak than you are
accustomed. Often in lines or in public places you can
be jostled by people. Also, don't be terribly surprised
if you see people break a line or a queue. This can
be quite irritating to Americans, but it just happens
in Russia.
Typically speaking, in a public place, most Russian
people will speak quietly among themselves. You will
rarely hear loud speech and laughter. It can happen
that sometimes Russian people will appear to be fighting
though, when they are only having a lively and animated
discussion. Don't be alarmed if you see this in a crowd
of people where everyone else is relatively quiet. If
you speak or laugh too loudly in a restaurant or on
the Metro you will draw stares from people. Additionally,
people will sometimes stare if they see someone who
looks different to them. The further you get from the
centers of Moscow and Saint Petersburg, the more likely
this is to happen.
In Russia, it is not considered impolite to take or
make a telephone call in a restaurant or when with a
group of people in a social setting. This happens very
often and the person using the telephone will often
speak in a less modulated tone than he or she would
in normal conversation.
People tend to be helpful when asked and also to show
respect to the elderly.
Typically, Russians are reliable about appointments.
If they say they will call, usually they will do so.
If they agree to a meeting, they will meet. Of course
there are always exceptions.
When in public places, such as the Metro, a traveler
may encounter people who do not share the same personal
hygiene standards. This can happen anywhere of course,
but you should be prepared for this.
In Russia approximately 60% of adult males smoke tobacco.
Women also smoke, but in much lower numbers. If you
spend anytime in Russia, you will encounter a lot of
tobacco smoke.
It is impolite to ask a woman her age. If you must know,
you could ask another question that would give you the
necessary information, such as her date of birth. But
don't insist on this information.
Do not shake hands through an open doorway. Also, do
not pass anything to anyone through an open doorway.
It is considered to be very bad luck.
If you buy flowers as a gift, only give an odd number
of flowers unless it is for a funeral or a grave decoration.
It is polite to open the door for a girl or woman and
to extend a hand to help her out of a car, train or
bus. Also, a man should give his seat up in a train,
in the metro or on any other form of public transport
to a woman.
It is considered very impolite to blow your nose at
a table or in public. Excuse yourself and do it in private.
Do not whistle inside a house or apartment. There is
a very strong superstition about this. Russian and Ukrainian
people are quite often very superstitious by nature.
They also have a greater degree of belief in horoscope
signs than people do in America.
Holidays and birthdays are very important in Russia.
Most holidays do not correspond with ours.
Most Russian people are modest in talking about themselves
and their achievements. In comparison an American can
seem very boastful even when he/she only believes their
comments to be factual. Keep this in mind when meeting
Russians.
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